How to Avoid the ‘College Comedown’

No more cheap beer. No more wild, decadent parties. No more casual, ‘no strings attached’ sex. Indeed, life after college can be a daunting and terrifying prospect for any fresh graduate who still relishes the thrill, spontaneity and fun of college dating. It’s not uncommon for many college graduates to feel somewhat lonely and isolated after graduation, having shuffled reluctantly from the relative safety of the campus into the cutthroat world of work.

We all know it can be a strange and terrible environment: one is immediately slapped across the face with an avalanche of deadlines, rules, policies and extra commitments. All of a sudden, that after-party you were planning to throw this evening is out of the question- it’s going to be another few hours of pencil pushing in a suit instead. However, descending into an alcohol- induced haze of loneliness, self-pity and general melancholy need not be the cure for a college comedown. In fact, you can turn this post-college dating dry spell into your greatest asset – and recapture your college insanity while you’re at it.

The opportunities to meet people diminish significantly after leaving college – this is due to the fact that campus functions and societies are no longer available and, alas, there is a great paucity of parties or campus raves to gate crash. This creates two significant problems in the dating experience of a graduate: a difficulty to meet new partners, and a thinning list of potential party venues. We all know that the latter are perfect locations to get intimate in.

First of all, let’s tackle the issue of no longer being able to easily meet new people and get dating through societies, such as the student newspaper, or the ‘Winnie the Pooh’ society, or whatever it may be that took your fancy in college. The obvious solution is to join a dating website such as Match or Plenty of Fish, but this is not necessarily the best solution.

Dating sites can be saturated with users of any age, up to at least seventy in some cases, and this is obviously not a target market which will make you, the young and frisky graduate, drool with anticipation. Instead, look to other ‘real word’ manifestations of a college society which could be a good opportunity to meet new potential partners and even do a little social networking.

This could obviously be a football or hockey club, but please at least try to be creative! Do something fun and be spontaneous. Consider yourself a budding poet? Join a creative writing club. There are dozens in every city and you are, at the very least, bound to make some interesting friends.

Alternatively, why not really take the plunge and join a group or club involved in something which you have never tried before? Yoga and martial arts classes can be a wonderful opportunity to get to know some new and exciting people. All it takes is a little of that confidence you were so proud of as a college student – only this time, there won’t be as much Dutch courage available to loosen your tongue.

The second issue, clubbing and partying, is also a relatively easy one to resolve, providing you know where to go. Student clubs and bars are still acceptable places to attend with friends, but once you begin to push the age of thirty, this trend will wither and die very promptly indeed. Until then, punctuate your visits to the old student haunts with parties at racy, underground scene venues. Never been to a Goth or fetish nightclub? Why not take a few single friends along – you may well be pleasantly surprised by what you discover. Clubs and bars such are these will almost always charge reasonable drink and admissions fees, which is perfect for those still paying off their student loan.

The ultimate key to success when cruising around the city for potential girlfriends or boyfriends is to try and maintain the spontaneous, fun-loving spirit which was so precious at college. Don’t be afraid to really leap in at the deep end and become a connoisseur of obscure and even eccentric pastimes.

Wherever you go, it’s possible to come across that special someone, who just happens to have a great deal in common with you. Graduating from college doesn’t have to mark the start of a mundane, lonely and prosaic decade – spice up your love life, get out into the unknown, and avoid the college comedown!

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